We had my 3 SILs over for dinner on Saturday. 2 are JWs and one is a recent revert to the CC.
The revert told me she was having sex with some guy a few months back and asked what I thought about the pill. I told her it was bad, and that it had too many side effect and that is why I stopped using it. I didn’t tell her anything about how wrong it is to be committing fornication, but I did tell her to be careful because she has to think about who she brings into her life because of her baby boy.
So, now she is dating this other man, married man, and she decided to go on the IUD. I was telling her how abortive and how dangerous that is, and all the side effects of it. Luckily I studied human sexuality back in college and I kept my biology book because it has a lot of great info. So I told her that medically, I can shouw her how bad it was. And I remembered that in the “Art of NFP” book the IUD has a section of its own, so I took out the book to show it to her, so she could see how bad this is.
I told her ALL ABC has side effects, and that the biology book was the one that dealt with the physical and medical issies, and that the NFP had those and moral ones included. She read the part where is says it’s an abortifacient, and she freaked out. She decided she was going to have that removed, but then she asked me about NuvaRing, a rubber ring full of hormones, that you change one a month, and told her it was bad as well. So, since she like the “NFP” book, she asked if she could take it home to read it. I didn’t want to say no, so I let her borrow it. I have 2 copies of the book.
So, my problem here is that I tried persuading her from using ABC, but got her interested on NFP. In a way that’s good, but she’s not married. She’s dating a married man! I can’t tell her what she’s doing is wrong because she isn’t my sister. Gosh, she came with a huge hickey on her neck to the dinner . She has no problem telling us she’s with this married man, and she tries to get consent from us by asking if it’s ok that she’s using whatever form of ABC she’s on.
How can one approach something like this? This is the same girl who asked me to help her back to the CC, but she’s just too immoral and doesn’t care about what the CC teaches. At first she believed I was crazy for using NFP, but because I haven’t ended up pregnant, she thought she’ll give it a try. I’ve created a monster!!
My 2 JW SILs were looking at the NFP book and read some of the material on tubals, but laughed at the content because they don’t believe it’s morally wonrg, but ARE worried that their younger sister is committing adultery and having sex outside of marriage. This girl is really impulsive, and she also cannot be alone for one week. SHe needs to have a b/f at all times. It’ saddens me that she does this because she has a 17 month old to worry about. She leaves him w/nannies all the time, she works too much, she has sex in the room w/the kid there :mad: and then tells me I guess to seek approval?? Because I wasn’t too into religion before, she thinks I’m ok w/this behavior, she tells me things she doesn’t tell my DH (for example that she was w/this married man, but he knows now), she tries to have me take her to Planned Parenthood for pregnancy tests and to get condoms…
I really don’t want to cause more turmoil w/my in laws, but if I tell her to not come to me w/this stuff, I’ll have the 3 sisters against me, instead of just 2. But I am afraid for my own sake because I’m unwillingly contributing to her sins…
What should I do?