Colin B. Donovan wrote the “Talking in Church” response below. My question is, could not this be especially the circumstance within sacred sacramental events as Confirmations and Holy Matrimony? The jokes were directed at the groom (his cousin) and my immediate family. I could not ask him to stop as I was in the front pew. No one told them to stop. The Mass was beautiful. Their sinfulness was not in my humble opinion. I tried to show grace. They demonstrated no remorse, no apology. And it continued at the Wedding Reception this past Sept. the 6th.
Talking in Church
Assuming that what is being said is not itself sinful, it is morally neutral to talk. However, Catholic moral teaching tells us that “circumstances” change the moral character of actions.
Talking in Church when not demanded by necessity is at least venially sinful for the following reasons:
- It is the Lord’s House, which Jesus taught was “a house of prayer” (Mt 21:13) and thus should be used according to its purpose. This is a violation of justice against God, for whom we should have reverence.
- It is a violation of justice against actual neighbors who are trying to pray. Again, necessity permits talking, just as it permits practicing the music before Mass and so on. However, most conversations are trivial and could gone on elsewhere at another time. This puts them in the category of unnecessary. The truth of this is shown by the strict guard for silence maintained in the chapels of the Roman basilicas where people are praying. Even in the areas where the tourists are viewing the architecture and art, talking above a whisper is not permitted. This is an accurate reflection of the Catholic respect for the church and for others.
- Finally, it is a violation of charity, since as Christians we should be going “out of ourselves” to look after others first. (*My question is, could not this be especially the circumstance within sacred sacramental events as Confirmations and Holy Matrimony?) If a person crassly and knowingly disregarded others trying to pray, or worst of all did so with malice or contempt, it could even be a mortal sin against charity.
These are basic principles of Catholic moral theology and need no other authority than that.
________________________________________Answered by Colin B. Donovan, STL