This is one of my first posts on here. I need advice on how to talk to my boyfriend about something quite important - pornography. He is a non-Catholic, believes in God but is pretty much in line with what the rest of the world teaches on the subject of sexuality.
I’d really like to be able to get through to him on this issue as I feel it is crucial to having a healthy relationship that he isn’t into that stuff (not that I believe he looks at it much but it worries me that he doesn’t think it’s a problem).
I realise I may get some responses that I shouldn’t be with a guy like this, but at the moment I’m just praying tons and tons and hoping that with time God will change his heart! I’ve already seen some big changes in the time I’ve known him so I’m hopeful! If not, well, further down the line I guess some decisions would have to be made.
How can I talk to him without appearing ‘naggy’? Are there any really good secular websites and books that give concrete reasons why porn is bad? So far I’ve been running into problems because if something is overtly ‘religious’ he assumes it’s biased. Personal testimonies and emotional arguments don’t work too well either, so I need something that is completely based on facts and statistics…
Thanks for any help you can offer!