I teach at a catholic school and have been mentoring a few girls who are both 17… they’ve been dealing with depression, crises of faith, broken families… the list goes on. I have a special bond with them because I’ve known them for several years, and they trust me enough to talk to me about their problems. Their parents have been harsh… even abusive at times… and they’ve told me that they feel comfortable around me because they know they’ll be respected, accepted, and not judged.
I’ve noticed these two girls have become very close over the year- to the point where it looks like an unhealthy relationship. It looks like it either has become or will soon become a lesbian relationship. On Friday, they lingered in my classroom after school, and I got the feeling that they were going to announce their relationship to me, but I was in a rush, so they left.
Since then, I’ve been trying to work through in my head how I will react and what I will say if and when they do tell me this. This is incredibly tough for me- it’s difficult for me to see them do something destructive to their spiritual and emotional lives, especially when I’ve seen them make such great strides to becoming more healthy people. I feel like they are undoing all the progress they made and will become more confused about who they are i the process.
I know that if this is the case, they will need me in their lives more than ever, so I don’t want to do or say anything that would drive them away. How do I do that, without affirming them in their relationship?