My husband is a recent convert to Catholicism. He entered the Church at the Easter Vigil last year. He says he converted because during Mass he felt better than during any other church service.
Still, he doesn’t understand many teachings of the Church, and therefore ignores them or, worse, disagrees with them. I do my best to explain them, and in a way it’s a blessing because it makes me take a deeper look at my faith and have to find the reasons that I believe the things I do.
But, it’s also placing a strain on our marriage. We practice NFP, but he’s always pressuring me to use barrier contraception during my fertile phase. He doesn’t understand my devotion to Mary, and even doesn’t know some basic universally Christian teachings about her (such as her virginity at the time of Christ’s conception and birth). He disagrees with me on what constitutes a sin (i.e. small lies that ‘hurt no one’ are not sins; big lies, especially those lies told to him by anyone, are sins). He won’t go to Confession (or watch our son so I can more easily go), because he doesn’t think either of us does anything ‘that bad’.
There are many more things that I could go into, but I think the general idea is clear. When I try to gently correct him or explain to him a Church teaching he appears to be listening (most of the time), but then doesn’t understand or goes on acting the same way. Sometimes when I correct him he acts as though it’s not my place to do so, and gets mad at me for pointing out his errors.
I have thought about purchasing books on Catholic doctrine and dogma for him to read, so it wouldn’t be just me telling him, but someone in authority, but I know he won’t read them (he has refused to read such books and others in the past). He has ADHD and, I suspect, dyslexia, so he finds reading difficult and doesn’t really absorb much of the information anyway. He also won’t talk about his ADHD, and refuses treatment.
So, advice? Has anyone had a similar experience? How do I present the information he needs to know in a way that he can learn it? How do I show him that I’m just trying to help him get to heaven?