Well, I’d get info from the school for 2 reasons: First, I want to know what’s being taught - if it’s REALLY bad, I’d do more than opt out, I’d try to change it altogether. Second, I appreciate that I am not the sole source of wisdom for my children, and I would be curious to see what the message is and how they get their point across. Who knows, they might have some good ideas that I can use in my discussions.
As you can see, I leave room for the possibility that at least part of their approach could be appropriate. HOWEVER, I believe that a school is not an appropriate place for such discussions. When an adult other than your parent to discuss matters like this with you, you are already blurring the boundaries of the child. How is it that my teacher can talk about my private parts to me, but she is telling me not to let anyone touch them. While not necessarily outwardly confusing, it is desensitizing young children to having their privates not be so private. That’s why I believe that no matter how appropriate the words may be, they are NOT appropriate if they are coming from the wrong adult or if they are done in a group situation.
I do recognize that many parents shirk their responsibilites to protect their kids in this way, so I can appreciate that the school may feel like they NEED to fill that gap. But I think MOST parents are fully able (some with the help and suggestions of experts or other experienced people) to teach their children to protect themselves in a private, individually appropriate manner.