Teen books for confidence & friends


My dd is somewhat shy and reserved and is looking for some interesting books to help her "fit in" and come out of her shell. She is very nice and mature, but lacks self esteem and confidence. She was born in Ukraine and came her as a 7 yr old. and has been here for seven years. She has probably experienced more than most kids her age and therefore has difficulty relating to her peers. Any recommendations would be appreciated!


I recommend Dale Carnegie’s classic “how to win friends and influence people”. It’s not a religious book…but it’s sincere, non-faddish, and sound. It’s well written and straight forward…and you ought to be able to find a used or new copy for less than 3 dollars.

It’s built on basic human virtues. Honesty. Charity. Friendliness. Focusing on others.

It’s really timeless.


I agree with the recommendation of Carnegie's book, and would add 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey. amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-Teens/dp/0684856093

It's a teenage version of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. A quick google search also gave me a website you can check out seancovey.com/teens.html


Fr. Groeschel talked about YouCat on his program this week. “Sunday Night Prime” is available at EWTN youtube: youtube.com/user/EWTN#p/u/9/2HkteiFcGmQ

YouCat is available here: ignatius.com/Products/YOUCAT-P/youcat.aspx

The review on Amazon reads:

This morning I heard a great interview on EWTN with Ignatius Press, “speaking out” for the new YOUCAT. YOUCAT is short for Youth Catechism of the Catholic Church. Everyone will want to know why YOUCAT is yellow and white. Some may have guessed, “Because it is the color of the Vatican flag!” You would have been correct!

For two years, groups of 50 youth banded together to work on this new Catechism of the Catholic Church for youth, under the direction of Cardinal Christoph Schönborn, Archbishop of Vienna, Austria, who was the editor of Catechism of the Catholic Church. The EWTN interview was exciting for me and, with 15 grandchildren, I hurried to order YOUCAT!

I was happy to see the comments by Pope Benedict XVI on the new YOUCAT. He said much more than the following but here are a few things that are interesting: (my personal comments in the parentheses)

“Today I recommend for your reading an unusual book . . .” (this Pope cares for the youth!)

“Should we not attempt to translate the Catechism of the Catholic Church into the language of young people? Should we not bring its great riches into the world of today’s youth?” (YES!!!)

“Many people say to me: The youth of today are not interested in this. I disagree, and I am certain that I am right. THE YOUTH OF TODAY ARE NOT AS SUPERFICIAL AS SOME THINK. They want to know what life is all about . . .” (this was my personal favorite! POPE BENEDICT XVI has confidence in the youth of today!)

“This book is exciting because it speaks of our own destiny and so deeply engages every one of us. I invite you: Study this Catechism! That is my heartfelt desire.”

“This catechism was not written to please you. It will not make life easy for you, because it demands of you a new life.” (this was my other personal favorite!)

“It places before you the Gospel message as the “pearl of great value” (Mt 13:45) for which you must give everything.”

“So I beg you: Study this Catechism with passion and perseverance. Make a sacrifice of your time for it! Study it in the quiet of your room; read it with a friend; form study groups and networks; share with each other on the Internet. By all means continue to talk with each other about your faith…” (and this was another favorite! “study with passion and perseverance”)

“Of course, there are many differences even among the youth of today’s world. And so now, under the capable direction of the Archbishop of Vienna, Christoph Cardinal Schoenborn, YOUCAT has been produced for young people. I hope that many young people will let themselves be fascinated by this book.”


Although I'm gonna get flamed for this American Girl has EXCELLENT resources for growing girls on many topics. They really know how to reach girls in a fun and interesting way, letting them know how to express feelings and communicate.

Their historical novels show girls interacting at all ages store.americangirl.com/agshop/html/thumbnail/id/246/uid/137

most of these are ages 8+ but except for the books involving puberty are ok for 7 year olds.


Thanks so much. She actually was checking out Dale Carnegie’s book and I let her download it on her kindle. We are going to check out the suggestion of Youcat.
Thank you , thank you!


My son has ADHD and has never had great social skills. ADHD kids lag behind their age peers about 15-18 mos so they never seem to “sync up” in their grade, even if they are bright. Many ADHD kids find friends that are in the grade below them.

I bought this book for him and although he really didn’t use it, I thought it was a great book and have referred several others to it. It is not just for ADD’ers but is general enough for all teens to use.



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