I’m a teen and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 9 months today. Today my family sat me down and had a huge talk with me because they found out how far my boyfriend and I had been going and they were really concerned. I ended up agreeing with their points and then I had a talk with my boyfriend about it and he seemed angry at my parents for wanting us to be chaste, and doesn’t think that we’ve gone too far. He said that he will not do anything I’m not comfortable with (and he has never done anything that I did not fully consent to, so I believe him) and I believe that but I’m so sad that he doesn’t see that sins against chastity are mortal and that I’m doing this because I love him. I just want him to get into heaven. I really want to marry him someday, I’m terrified that he only loves me for what we did physically and that he won’t love me anymore now that I will not allow it. We are both Catholic- is there any teaching I can show him to help him understand chastity? I love him so much and I just want what is best for him, and I really don’t want to lose him… Please help.
He is also pretty stubborn and set in his ways so I don’t know how to teach him about chastity without him calling it stupid.
I don’t know what to do… I feel like this is all my fault, and if I never would have let it escalate we wouldn’t be in this situation. I just wish he could see things through my eyes because it’s really painful for him to disagree with something so important.