I have to give a bit of background before my question.
My teen son is 15. He goes to occasional Mormon dances. Catholic youth gatherings here are slim-pickings and and seem far less Catholic than the Mormon youth gatherings. He goes because his closest friend is a Mormon, so that's how he got into this. I know ALL ABOUT the Mormon religion, believe me: there is little out there I haven't read! I also know ALL about, and respect ALL of our Catholic faith. NO lack of info there on my part. NO chance I'd EVER convert out! I am eternally Catholic!
I love that the Mormon dances are well-chaperoned! Clean music, modest dress. Its an excellent thing.
I am not concerned about his being converted. We have discussed some of the ridiculousness of Joesph Smith, yet he knows to respect their faith and does. I don't feel he is a well-equipped Catholic Apologist, and is not motivated to become one at this time. But if conversions efforts are turned on him, I will be able to keep him on the right path.
So, none of his closes friends are practicing Catholics. He knows some practicing Catholics but distance is a factor in not deepening those acquaintances (another factor is that those families are intact, and, married couples tend to socialize more with married couples. My son's Mom is a single Mom,and we are friends. Hence the close relationship. I love that I know the friends Mom well, and that we communicate everything.)
Its hard for me when my son steps outside of parents-I-know to make friends! I prefer to know parents. However, I can't hold him back from making friends.
At the dance he met a Mormon girl he likes as a friend. Her Facebook says she's "in a relationship" which my son acknowledges. Once, the girl and he had a very long "skype" conversation which I caught bits of, and aside from complimenting her on her look (in an appropriate way) it was just silly fun talk, and I was okay with that. Other than that, this is the only way I am privvy to how this friendship is.
He wants to go to her house. Like tomorrow. I said I was open to it but not sure yet but her parents being home was a deciding factor.
If they are home, its a 35 min. drive at least! I would like to meet the parents. Frankly I am hoping they would invite me in and want to get to know me. But you can't exactly ask for that, can you?
Any suggestions, or cautions from parents who are concerned that their children maintain chaste relationships (and are ONLY hearing this from Mom! From his Dad, whom he visists with pretty regularly, he gets leering comments like: "Hey-hey, I saw how you were looking at that babe!" or, "So do you have a girlfriend yet?"
It seems so complicated when your home is divorced and parents are divided on what matters.