[quote="Hyker, post:30, topic:178451"]
I am in the same boat with both my daughters. I have one who is now pregnant and lives with her fiance, and the other is moving to another state tomorrow with a boy she met on line. The second is using her sister's situation as an excuse for her decision.
One of the things I haven't read in this post yet is, as a parent, how much guilt is felt that they haven't done enough to make sure their child does not make this devastating decision. I am trying so hard to come to terms with this and ask myself daily where I went wrong. My children were raised in the Catholic faith, and were awesome and respectful (to everyone around them AND themselves). It seems once they left the nest, they are straying into dangerous territory.
I empathize with those going through this trauma and will add my own prayers to yours that the final outcome is a good one, and that we continue to have the strength to do what is right.
No one said parenting was easy, but I don't recall being told how much pain there can be.
Just from the point of the child that has gone through it - it is not always that the parents didn't teach. Sometimes they taught too well. It is the story of the prodigal son/daughter.. I feel as if I just had a conversation very similar to this with my eleven year old step daughter about lying to parents. Sometimes we make decisions that take us out of the Grace of God and the communion of the Church. This is a choice that we make. We turn on our backs on God, He never turns His back on us. Luckily with our beliefs in the Great Mother Church it is very simple to come back to God's grace and the communion of Saints when she/he makes that choice. There is no reason to feel guilt - your children are adults; if you have done the best you can then just be the example and be loving. As long as the door is open they will come back when the Holy Spirit intercedes and she is able to hear and feel it in her heart.