Okay - I’ll just relate my own observations here:
In this area of the world, most kids in high school do have weekend and after school jobs. Their parents stop giving them allowances when they turn sixteen, and they get their spending money from their part time job.
They control their income by how many hours they put in at work. Most of the jobs they get are in retail or fast food, so they have quite a bit of flexibility to choose their hours. The majority work one night a week for 4 hours and one day of the weekend once every two weeks, for eight hours, which gives them an overall total of eight hours a week. For most kids, that works out to about $240.00 a month after taxes and other deductions.
Most of them know how to budget, and they also share expenses among themselves for things like going out for Chinese food, or buying certain toys that they share among themselves, etc. (For example, three of the boys in one of my youth groups bought a video game system together, and they play on it together. It travels from house to house between the three boys, depending on who has room to store it, and whose parents will let them play it at their house.)
All my girls have savings accounts - have done since birth and the agreement is that we match what they put in - any special money (eg good reports etc) goes straight in so they have been taught to save and they get an allowance of $100 a month so they get money - for clothes, CD’s etc and I try to give them independance but I think they get enough money? Maybe I’m wrong?
This is less than what their peers would be earning at their part time jobs, but it is more than enough if they are not earning it in any way.
I have enforced strict curfews none of my girls are allowed out on school nights andmy 17 year old has an 11pm curfew of a weekend and my 15 year old has a 10pm (its Liv who keeps trying to stretch the curfew) Many of their friends dont have curfews but they also go to clubs etc and I am NOT allowing that!
That’s a stricter curfew than my Youth Group kids have. These kids are allowed out until 9:30-10:00 at night to come to Youth events on weeknights, and other stuff that they do (dance class, guitar, etc.) and midnight on weekends, again for Church-related events. (I’m not sure if the rules are different for non-Church events.) These kids don’t go to clubs at all, though. The wildest they ever get is to go out and play lazer-tag, or race go-karts on a special racing track.
I think I am an ‘average’ mom with regards to clothes I DONT like short skirts or tube tops nothing to clingy or tight - my girl have big chests and I dont approve of them showing cleavage - but I’ve found my eldest with a ‘Wonderbra’ and I dont think she should own one they also keep buying make-up and hipster jeans - Im dreading the big summer shop!!!
This also sounds like the parents of the kids in Youth Group, too.