[quote="tafan, post:8, topic:248445"]
You are too young to be in a serious relationship. Period. Sorry, thats the way it is. People will always tell you stories about "how it worked great for us".
Also, don't get serious with a non-Catholic. That is a bad move. Again, people will always tell you stories about how great their mixed-marriage is.
Exceptions don't make the rule.
My advice, get new friends and end your romantic relationship (you have two strikes against you: age and religion).
And you have no idea if God has blessed your relationship. The odds are, He hasn't. That is just immaturity talking, another sign that you are too young.
If nothing else, look at it this way: What is the earliest age you think you would want to get married? 21? If that's the case you are talking about a 5 year relationship, a very bad idea.
People will always try to rain on your parade. I would let neither your friends cheapen your relationship, or people that don't know you at all. I imagine that your Catholic parents are aware of your relationship, and that's who should have ANY authority over your social life. It sounds, so far they have done a good job.
The most important advise I could offer. Regardless of how amazing you think this relationship is. It's not time to make forever commitments. Remain steadfast. Because it COULD fall apart. And if you want to only be with one woman, you don't want your 16 y/o self having made that mistake.
Every parent I knew that had a non dating policy until 18 had non virgins for kids... I can't think of one virgin in that category. Can even think of a few abortions...Oh, the excellent liars their children became... and incredibly gullible parents to boot....I will NEVER forget when my sneaky little sister went out with her girlfriend when she wasn't supposed to. Mom figured it out in about 2 minutes... That girls dad...FLOORED that his innocent little girl (SOOOOOO NOT) would do such a thing... Guess who the virgin was?
Not saying that all the daters are chaste...they are not... But let's face it. Now adays the teens aren't actually dating... They just have sex... and move on.
Mixed marriages are hard... I can attest to that... But hey, I'm no where near average! ;) And so yes, my marriage is seemingly quite successful. I personally draw the line at a non believer. Can't work with that... You also sound as though you are already a strict practicing Catholic. One of the reasons mixed marriages don't work well is because the Catholic didn't get serious until sometime AFTER their marriage. I'm sure it's quite difficult when you redifine sex, birthcontrol, Sunday activity etc... These are things to lay out up front... No matter how much I loved my husband, had he not agreed to raising children Catholic... That would have been deal breaker... and you be CLEAR... This is not something you get to change your mind about... In my experience, my husband being an honest man, has held up his end of the deal. Even goes to church with us when he's not working. He does not interferre AT ALL. He does not contradict AT ALL. He keeps his family in check as well. I keep him very involved, and I slowly teach.
I'm not sure if it's harder for a Catholic man, non catholic wife to enforce the Catholic faith... Women plan weddings...so where's his input? They tend to do the majority of the child rearing... And so for me as the Catholic... all has gone as planned. I recently watched a Catholic man marry his non Catholic bride in a non-Catholic building (not church)... I wonder what will happen if he decides to get serious... I suspect a mess... a HUGE mess!
Lots to think about, and you still have years to go... So again, I think it boils down to getting a better class of friends, and don't be stupid... Until you're ready to put a ring on that finger... (well... still don't get stupid;)