Yes, I’m back and this time the issues from this thread forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?p=5990274&mode=linear#post5990274 relate to the younger sister age 14.
She and her brother and mom are currently visiting us. I have just found out that she is having sex with her boyfriend. She is 14 and he is 15. Her mom is exhausted (she is in her 60s) and really doing minimum parenting. This young lady is very needy but intelligent and does well in school, although has social problems at times. I don’t think her mom knows she is sleeping with her boyfriend otherwise I doubt she would let her email him and Skype with him (live feed conversations via internet). I found out because after they left today to travel to France for a few days I went to check my email and she had left an open email on my computer from her boyfriend. He said his mom hates him because he “was a mistake” he never had a dad and if he had a gun right now he would kill himself. Can you believe this was all in a few lines of an email? Together with details of them having sex of course. What a match they make .She was adopted after being removed from drug addicted and abusive parents and is dealing with the fallout.
I would have her stay here with us and go to school and not fly back to the US but she was also expelled from two schools when she was younger for sexually abusing other children (as a grade school student). Although that seems to be in the past safety being No. 1 I have three young children of my own I need to protect.
Part of me would like to pretend I never saw the email and just move on. However, there is no way I would do that if she was my own child and I consider it completly irresponsible to leave a vulnerable girl in a relationship with a volatile young man, both of them in need of love and attention.
Arrrrgh! What do I do/not do? This program is supposed to be Catholic except I can’t find a specific reference on the site (but have not read it all) trinityteensolutions.com/