I would say that practically all teenage boys masturbate. Why is the Catholic Church so opposed to this? Is this a disciplinary matter or is this part of Divine Law? Does that mean that all Catholic teens must hold back their urges? This is so common.
Just because something is common doesn’t make it good for ones soul … Abortions are common too , does that make it ok ? Cause people just couldn’t hold back their urges ?
2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. “Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action.” “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of “the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.”
To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.
The church is opposed to this, because it does not fit in the design of God’s plan for sex in marriage. I would advise you to look into Theology of the Body. This is a great teaching that really explains the purpose of our bodies and what they are made for. If you look into it and study it, you would understand how masturbation really goes against that design.
My masturbating, we take use of our sexual functions outside of its purpose. Instead of using our sexual functions in a loving, life giving way, we use it for our own selfish gains.
I could go on and on, but suffice it to say, Theology of the Body is a great teaching. And it really explains our bodies purpose and the design of love and sex. God bless you as you work though temptations. I know how hard the fight is.
St. Michael, cast into hell Satan and all evil spirits!.
There are lots of things people are naturally inclined to do (or not do) that are bad for them. That is not a justification to go ahead and do them.
Catholics do not say that sex is evil. Indeed, it is a great good. But we cannot let sexual impulses and desires control us. We have to practice chastity and temperance. If a person eats nothing but junk food, and consumes it in excess, all day long, we would say that person is gluttonous, and should learn to practice greater self-control (the possibility of eating disorders aside for the moment). Why not the same for sex?
One thing I think that has made this issue much more prevalent is the vast amounts of idle time many teens and young adults have, which just didn’t exist for previous generations. Keeping busy, doing valuable work, is a great tool against this particular sins and the other sins that pop up in idleness.
The teenage years may be when masturbation most often starts, but it doesn’t mean it’s a “free pass”. Keep in mind this isn’t a issue that just goes away after teenage years. There are men in their 60s and 70s that still masturbate who probably had that mindset. I would think that number is growing with the increased availability and anonymity of pornography.
Be careful about using blanket statements like “practically all teenage boys” do it. If there’s a handful of boys that don’t do it, that says a lot. The path is narrow. We’re called to be holy.
Masturbation is a selfish act that is against God’s will. Just because it’s a natural urge doesn’t mean it’s okay to act on it. We’re called to fight our own flesh, we’re not animals. As pensmama pointed out, there are other urges we must fight too such as overeating.
It’s Divine Law.
Masturbation is an unchaste behavior. Masturbation is the “gateway sin” to other sexual sins.
If we learn chastity, etc., then boys will not do this. The only reason why boys do it is because they hear others talk about. So they get curious and try… But like drugs, masturbation is addictive. Also, as boys grow, masturbation leads to an objectification of women. Masturbation also (unlike popular myth) typically does not make a man a better lover, but rather a more selfish lover.
Finally, masturbation separates the love of another person from the congeal act, meaning it makes it more difficult to “make love” when married.
As someone who used to be addicted to this sin (and still sometimes suffers from withdrawal) masturbation is very dangerous as you grow. It also leads to porn addiction, etc. which is usually very bad for a marriage.
My suggestion: whenever you feel the urge to masturbate, start praying multiple “Hail Marys” until the urge goes away.
I pray this helps.
God bless and Happy Easter!
As someone who didn’t masturbate as a teen, I instead developed self-control and mental/emotional strength. We (teens and young people) are not animals. Just as it is possible for a teen to choose not to eat, to push to academic or physical perfection, or to make any other human choice, it is possible for us not to masturbate. This whole “teens are animals” idea has GOT to stop! It is damaging the entire young adult population, because inevitably some morons are actually going to believe it. We are not animals. We make choices same as anyone, we just have less experience at adulting.
If the OP is a teen, dude, you’re not a dog. Do some push-ups or something if you have extra energy.
Ok, rant done. Bye.
I do not think the Church is opposed to teen masturbation. The Catechism says that lack of sexual maturity can make masturbation not a sin. I agree with this view.
When a person masturbates frequently, especially if they’re young, it can alter neurochemical pathways in their brain which control their sexual responses. This can train them to only respond to certain stimuli, like pornography, and dull their desire for real men/women. End results may include sexual dysfunction, addiction to pornography, and diminished ability to intimately engage with a real partner.
Church laws are not arbitrary; they exist for a reason.
This is not accurate. Youth and immaturity may mitigate culpability, but it’s still objectively sinful.
(Comparable somewhat to a person “not guilty by reason of insanity” - a crime was still committed, the person just can’t be held responsible to the same degree.)
It is still against natural law.
Are you disagreeing with what I said?
I am not disagreeing with it. I am interpreting it.
As a teen, it is something that can be very difficult to control.
That said, learning self-control is very important, not just in the sexual sense, but also in eating and drinking (in addition to smoking - which is also something that is allowed, but in “temperate” quantities).
Learning sexual control is prudent too - I feel our society is “over-sexed.” Avoiding these situations could help reduce the instance of STI’s/STD’s and unplanned pregnancies. After-all, we are designed to procreate within the bounds of marriage.
The Church teaches what she does on this topic since masturbation is using one’s genitalia for their own wicked means.
It can contribute to the whole “trade” of illicit imagery that is so rampant in our society today. Even secular scientists are beginning to research “Your Brain on Porn” and note that the effect is VERY similar to illicit drug use. The need for more outrageous fantasies and imagery more often also matches illicit drug use, and eventually abuse.
The other issue, which I touched on, is it is using the genitalia for pleasure. Sex is made to be this way - and is made in this way so as to encourage us to procreate. Masturbation takes the procreation out of the equation, and turns what should be “a good thing” (the genetic code contained within the semen) into filth that needs to be “cleaned up” and “washed away.”
Now, despite all this, lots of teens and adults do battle with this habit daily. One of the best things I heard was to focus on the means of attaining your goal, NOT the goal itself.
If you focus on “not masturbating” constantly, then thats already the first thought, the “obsession” in the cycle of addiction. The Devil WANTS us to despair over the fact this is a difficult-to-break habit.
Instead, if we take this one step at a time, and simply try to make our lives more holy through the Sacraments, Prayer and faith in God - then these baby-steps are easier for us than simply daunting ourselves with “I Will not Masturbate.”
And if you fall - try to take it as a learning experience. What went wrong that resulted in this?
Once you understand, put the event behind you and try to improve in that area. Go to confession, and most importantly, get Spiritual Direction and a Regular confessor.
They can suggest further means of battling this habit, they can assess your culpability, appropriate penances and so on. There are some tactics that can be applied to some cases - but this can only be done in specific cases and is not appropriate for some people (as it can subvert Church teaching).
As a closing point, Fasting & Abstinence, when done correctly, can do great things in kicking this habit. As does a daily recitation of the Rosary and/or the Divine Mercy chaplet.
Also remembering that “idle hands are the devils workshop” is important. Don’t leave yourself alone and bored. Its VERY dangerous.