Canadianlife ~ studies have also shown that babies are less at risk to die from SIDS when co-sleeping, because the constant motion of the parents and the regulated breathing of the mother helps keep the babies’ systems “in check.”
Momof5 ~ it’s hardly a fad, as Steph stated.
Steph ~ we coslept with both. Our dd was WONDERFUL to sleep with. We had our queen bed pushed up against the wall on my side and stuffed body pillows down between the wall and the mattress till all was tight and firm and closed up. She slept next to the wall, with me beside her and dh beside me. It didn’t work for her to sleep between us because dh was at that time crazy to sleep with (elbows in my eye, knee to my gut, etc.! ) He’s better now.
Yes, the memories we have of her waking up with us are priceless - her hair all frazzled and a big mess, crawling across our tummies to make sure we got up too…
By the time she hit about 14 months, she was a nightmare to sleep with - doing the same things her daddy would do - punching, kicking, lying sideways, so we booted her. I think she was glad to leave at that time. She transitioned to a pack and play beside our bed for a few months and then to a toddler bed in our bedroom. She just left our bedroom about 5 months ago and I completely miss having her in ours - waking up and seeing her sleeping all curled up in her toddler bed at the foot of our bed. Ah! Every now and then I want her back!
Now, ds is a different story. He prefers to sleep alone. And he sleeps much better that way. There were nights when dh and I got no sleep, nor did ds, because he would wake up 6, 7 times a night, and want to nurse but try to nurse twisting and crawling and sitting up pulling me every which way. We had to put an end to that, because dh was waking up exhausted and cranky every am. So ds went to his mini-crib (a crib but pack-n-play size) in our room, and he would wake up crying but we would get up and rub his back and pat his bottom till he wound down to sleep again, and within 2 days he started sleeping through the night on his own.
He does wake up at about 5:30/6 and want to get in bed with us, so that’s when he gets to.
My sister used to razz me right and left about having the kids sleep with us. She was completely rude about it - rolling eyes, sighing, and saying we were going to raise spoiled brats. Well, her new baby is 6 weeks old and has ***yet ***to see the inside of his own crib! :rolleyes: