I have a odd situation and I’m hoping some people can offer some advice or relay some experience.
I am recently married, and due to circumstances I won’t go into great detail about, it will be a bit of a long distance marriage for a while. I am not concerned about this, as we’ve discussed this and made plans for this, and it’s not ideal, but we’ll survive. It should come as no surprise then that we’ve also decided to hold off on the kids during this time as well. I know that men in the military often leave pregnant wives at home when they are deployed, so a long distance pregnancy can happen successfully, but it’s just something we want to avoid.
So the problem comes in the form of one mother who has come down with a case of the grandbaby-rabies. I know she generally means well, and she’s not too bad (at least yet), but there are times when the comments about babies and pregnancies and if we’re prepared and other related topics become a bit too much. I know that she just loves babies of all kinds (a trait that did not get passed on to me, but that’s beside the point). However, she doesn’t get a vote in this situation, since she’s not going to be in the bedroom. If she was, that’d totally kill the mood and then we’d never have kids. We’ll do it when we’re ready, not when she’s ready. She’s not too bad right now, but I can foresee her, once the long distance comes to an end, calling six times a day to see if my wife is pregnant yet.
So, the point of all this is: have any of you been in a similar situation, and if so, how do you tactfully get your well intentioned, but moderately annoying mother to relax and back off?