I am doing a thesis for a minor (but necessary) subject in Nursing school. I have two other groupmates (a man and a woman) in this project.
The thing is, BOTH of them are giving me a headache! They don’t seem to understand the value of time—or at least, **my **time!
You see, we are all second coursers and have experienced working in offices where being on time is a must—yet in our meeting, they are perpetually late or no-show.
What really hurts me is that this thesis should have been started 3 weeks ago, and as a concerned member, I have not been remissed in calling for a meeting since that week. Chapters 1, 2, 3 are due in three days and we haven’t accomplished anything!
I have written the approval letters, I asked questions to professor. I have very stayed late in school on my own waiting for the professor have our topic signed. They haven’t done anything yet! They told me that I shouldn’t take the thesis too seriously because it is just a minor subject. But then, without this subjcet we cannot graduate.
Since three weeks ago, I have called for meeting after meeting, always adjusting my time to what they say is convenient time for them.
The woman, told me once that she was ok to have the meeting at 12: 30 I was waiting and waiting for her—she then she calls at around 1:30 pm saying that she was on her way. She arrived at 2 pm.
Then next meeting, I asked her, “What time are you sure to arrive?” She said 5 pm. I was home already at 7 pm, after waiting for her in vain and she calls me on the cellphone that she was on the way! I told her not to bother as I was home already.
Still, I gave her a chance, I said today, “What time are you really, REALLLLLLY going to school?” She said 2 pm. At 2: 14 pm (I was again in the fastfood restaurant, meeting place) she texts me that she is on the way, thing is she is coming from a province thats about 3 hours away from Manila. I ended up waiting for her 3 hours–which is even worse than her previous late records before!
But then—I thought to myself, “At least she tries come!”…coz the guy groupmate is even worse!
1st meeting: This guy tells our groupmate that the group would meet at 2 pm, the other groupmate comes one and half hours late and stays for about 5 minutes because as it turns out she has a test to go to. The guy, well, he just didn’t show and just had the woman tell me that he was busy with school elsewhere.
2nd meeting: I ask him in the morning, are you really, REALLLLYYYY going to come to the meeting at 5 pm? He said yes. Then at 4:45pm, he texts me that he cannot make it as he has to do something else.
3rd meeting: I asked him the day before, what time is he really available for the meeting…he said 12:30 pm he is free. Then…the next day…I waited and waited in the fastfood restaurant where the group was supposed to meet. He was again NO SHOW! He told the other groupmate that he looked for me did not see me, so he went back to school as he had to be in class in a far off building in school at 1 pm!
After that I really lost my temper. I texted him the following:
“I am not amused! Once that you were a no-show, I can still forgive you, but 3 times!—TOO MUCH already!—especially since you were the one who dictated the time! You know, if you think that I have all the time in the world to waste waiting for you—think again! If your time is so precious to you, so is mine! I hate that people like you do not put value to my time. I think you are selfish and think only of yourself! We should all respect the time of others because I’ve been respecting yours. That’s why I make it a point to be on time. I really don’t like being made to wait long and you do not even bother to text that you will not come to a meeting, the time YOU yourself set. INCONSIDERATE!”
Then he texts sorry to me but adds that I should understand him as he is taking the last theoretical subject in Nursing and I should be aware that it is a busy time for him.
I texted back:
“No, I will not understand! What you did is too much! You think the world revolves around you and your time! I could have put MY TIME to better use than wait for you NOT TO SHOW UP! Its a waste of my time and resources. You are inconsiderate and irresponsible! Besides, if there was a time conflict for you, why not just say so (in advance) instead of dictating the time and then not show up. I don’t buy your excuse that you looked for me as the (name of restaurant) is small—funny why you didn’t text me when you couldn’t find me.”