A teenager/young adult (let’s call her Jen) is much like any other girl living in a Southern state. She’s the typical girl next door, goes to school, is polite, has friends, and is fairly average overall except for in the way she looks. She’s highly above average in the looks department and is pretty much built like a super model.
Despite her natural beauty, Jen still grooms herself and dresses in the same way as all the other girls in her town. Jeans and a sweater for the winters, shorts and a tank top for the summer, a collared shirt for work, a bikini for the beach, some make up for school, etc etc. Even though she dresses like all the other girls, she stands out more because of her beauty.
She is known as the babe amongst her peers, the men often whisper about her and sometimes make suggestive remarks, she often catches men looking at her regardless of where she is or what she is doing, sometimes a guy will come up to her and introduce himself, and she’ll get the occasional whistles and “so sexy” comments from strangers as she walks by. Sometimes it is just genuine physical attraction on the men’s part, and that’s fine… but other times the more perverted men will proceed to lust/objectify her by imagining her in their sexual fantasies, or saying inappropriate things about her to their buddies.
We all know, of course, that it is sinful for these men to view Jen as an object to be used to satisfy their own selfish desires rather than as a whole person.
Jen does not ask to be objectified in this way. She’s just a regular girl, doing things that regular girls do. She styles her hair, wears clothes, and does her makeup all in a way that is compatible for the area she lives in in 2013.
Unfortunately, because she is so beautiful, this will sometimes cause certain types of men to view her as an object to be used rather than as a human being. Jen could, I suppose, do certain things to make herself look less attractive. In the winter, she could ditch her jeans and flattering sweatshirts for baggy pants and hoodies. In the summer, she could ditch her cute shorts and tank top for long goofy looking shorts and tshirts. For work, she could ditch her girly collared shirt for one off of the “men’s section” at the store to unsure they hide her curves rather than accentuate them. For the beach she could invest in the same style of one piece as is worn by female olympic swimmers. She can stop wearing make up all together, and just tie her hair back in a pony tail everyday. But she figures she’s comfortable with herself, she likes her style, and if some men out there want to be pigs, that’s their problem.
Now the question is this…
Is Jen being selfish by continuing to look the way she does despite causing others to sin by viewing her as an object for their selfish gratification? Or better yet, is Jen AT ALL responsible for the sins of those who choose to lust after her?
Which do you think needs to happen from a moral standpoint?
A. Jen needs to get a makeover (or makeUNDER) as explained above so that she will not cause others to sin.
B. Jen does not need to change. It is the men’s responsibility to see Jen as the human being that she is, regardless of how Jen looks/dresses.
C. They should meet in the middle. Perhaps Jen can just make it a point to try to wear baggy sweaters and t-shirts for casual occasions where she’d normally do flattering sweaters and tank tops (though keeping everything else the same), and the men should make the effort to stop perceiving her as an object since it’ll be easier to do so if she doesn’t look as good.
D. Other (explain below)
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