A teenager/young adult (let’s call him Bob) always dresses like a complete nerd, and as a result attracts attention from his peers. A lot of them whisper to each other about him behind his back and giggle at his super nerdy physical appearance. Some of them take the extra step and actually pick on him and poke fun to his face.
We all know, of course, that it is sinful for these people to view Bob as an object of their entertainment and jokes.
Bob doesn’t look/dress the way he does because he wants to be objectified by these people and treated like anything less than a human being. Of course he doesn’t. He’s just Bob… he’s naturally awkward looking with a bit of an acne problem. He likes the way his huge, thick rimmed glasses feel on his face and how they give him a wide range of view. He also doesn’t like the style of a lot of the clothes that are IN now a days so he just always goes with a comfortable pair of gym shorts and some sort of Star Trek t shirt, since he’s a fan of the show. The pair of shoes he wears are old and worn out, but they are broken in very well and fit perfectly and comfortably on his feet. His hair tends to get a little shaggy because he just doesn’t see the point in going to the barber every 2 weeks, and instead goes about every 2 months. It doesn’t look dirty or bad or anything, it’s just not the fresh, clean cut look. He does keep himself and his clothes clean though… it’s just the overall appearances, really.
Unfortunately, all this causes others to stare at him, laugh, gossip, objectify, and bully. Bob could, I suppose, get his acne professionally taken care of, go to the barber a lot more often, ditch his star trek shirts and comfy gym shorts for clothes that other people wouldn’t giggle at. But he figures he’s comfortable with himself, he likes his style, and if others are going to be bullies, that’s their problem.
Now the question is this…
Is Bob being selfish by continuing to look the way he does despite causing others to sin by treating him like an object of entertainment? Or better yet, is Bob AT ALL responsible for the sins of those who make fun of him based on how he looks and what he wears?
Which do you think needs to happen from a moral standpoint?
A. Bob needs to get a makeover so that he will stop leading others to sin.
B. Bob does not need to change. It is the bully’s responsibility to see Bob as the human being that he is, regardless of how Bob looks/dresses.
C. They should meet in the middle. Perhaps Bob can just stop with the Star Trek shirts (though keeping everything else the same), and the bullies should make the effort to stop making fun of him since it’s easier not to do so if he would just wear a less nerdy t shirt instead.
D. Other (explain below)
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