OK…I first want to say thank you to everyone who listened to my sad vent about my sister’s desire to marry a man…who she started dating when he was married. (see ‘Terribly Sad’ for the whole story)
Well, I took a few of the posters’ advice…and sent her a heartfelt, non confrontational email–just showing concern. Giving her food for thought…and trying to show her that when we begin a relationship like this, out of God’s will–we will suffer terrible consequences. Consequences that might not be seen right away, but consequences, nonetheless. I also told her that God would not tell us to date married people, because the married person is really our soul mate. God wouldn’t tell someone to do something against His commandment. (thou shalt not commit adultery) My letter was heartfelt–I told her I say this out of love and concern for her. I also warned her that soon, when she starts living with him…(and eventually marrying him) she will also wonder…is he really at the store? is he really at that business trip? When one comes into a relationship with a cheater…one will eventually have to wonder…will he/she cheat on me? I think it’s only a matter of time before he cheats on her, anyways. He proved this when he was still sleeping with his wife, and seeing my sister. Ah…doesn’t that sound awful? It’s the wife who was being cheated on! :mad: But, see the tangled web that’s been woven?
Ok…so she replied…and said that ‘the advice stops here.’ That she raised me…raised her sons…took care of everyone…and it’s ‘her turn to be happy.’ Gee…I guess raising her kids didn’t make her happy?:o I guess I was a burden, I found out today. And then, the icing on the letter…was…that she prayed to ‘the Big Guy’ and our parents, and they both gave her the ‘sign’ to go ahead, and be happy. LOL OMG. I just wrote back, I hope things work out, and talk to you soon. Nothing more. She also said that she ‘hopes I’ll attend the wedding,’ and that if I choose to not be a part of her life…so be it. I’m forever grateful for my sister raising me…she is a good person. If I didn’t love her, I would say nothing…go ahead…marry the guy. But, she is making a terrible mistake.
And, who I feel the worst for in all of this is the guy’s kids from his first marriage…he has a 1 yr old son, 6 and 8 yr old daughters. Ugh.
Anyways…just wanted to share the ‘conclusion’ to my story…I wasn’t going to write her, but I guess I felt compelled…aren’t we supposed to help those who are lost? I have been lost in my life, and I struggled to come back to God, but thankfully, I did…and I just want her to experience that joy.
But, I’m done with offering any further advice. I recall several passages in the Bible, where Jesus said…‘go and sin no more.’ He didn’t haggle people…just simply stated His purpose…and what His desire for others were…and moved on. It’s up to us to follow His lead.
Thx for listening, all.