I’m so terribly sad today.
I’m not sure if some of you recall the story I told a few months back, about my sister dating a man, who left his wife and (at that time) two kids–for her. If you don’t recall, or haven’t heard it…here’s a summation. My sister, who raised me (our parents passed away by the time I turned 10) had an affair with a married man…while she was married. (3 years ago) Then…the guy left his wife, and continued seeing my sister…and in the midst of seeing my sister, was also still sleeping with his wife, unbeknownst to my sister…and his wife became pregnant. This brought another child into the picture-- which he now left three kids. So…my sister, finding this out…ended the relationship way back when. The guy divorced his wife…and left his three kids, because he ‘couldn’t live without my sister.’ He moved closer to his wife, so he could at least see his children more than the court appointed every other weekend.
My sister and he got back together about 8 months ago, after he begged and pleaded with her…etc…and then he dumped her again, Christmas of 2006. Called her names…told her she was negative, said he wanted to see other people. So…they were broken up through the holidays…she had bought presents for his kids…returned them to the stores, because he called it off. He claimed at that time, that he called it off…because my sister wouldn’t quit her job…and move (3 hours north) to live with him.
Ok…fast forward to today…she called me and said they have been seeing each other for the past few weeks, and he asked her to marry him. No ring. Just a ‘proposal’ over the phone.
Sad sad sad…isn’t it? She’s more than a sister to me…she’s like a mom. It’s very sad to see her feeling so desperate that she would not only go back with someone like this…but, agree to marry him. Quit her job? Fled where she lived, paid a high penalty on her apartment for breaking the lease…and ran to him? Ok…am I crazy, or do you think, after hearing this story, that he realized that paying his own bills is tough work (his first wife that he left was the bread winner, and made a great living) so he’s using my sister to support himself?
I dunno…either way…whatever HIS reasons are…I just wish that she would ask herself …what would Christ tell her to do? It’s like she has completely abandoned her faith or something. She says she prays…but how many warning signs does God need to send one’s way, before a person gets a hint that this isn’t God’s will? My husband said that she is chasing happiness…temporal happiness…not holy happiness. He feels she will unfortunately find out the very very VERY hard way, that this guy will most likely hurt her, the way he hurt his wife and kids.
Just venting…and by the way…I’m invited to the wedding…which supposedly they are planning for New Year’s eve…My husband said…just act happy for her, it’s not your life…
But, I have a deep sadness over this…why do I feel so sad over this?