For those of you that have read my threads my dh and I have been through some tough times as of late. We are getting back on track and we have gotten to the root cause of the problems. When he was around 4 he was molested by a babysitter (male). His parents went over and spoke to the babysitter’s parents who denied it and they never pressed charges or made a police report. While he did go to counseling as a kid he walked away feeling as if his parents didn’t protect him or stand by him. The type of counseling was good for the time but needed follow up that he never got.
Right before the wedding this year his cousin’s four year old was found to have been molested for two years by her boyfriend. He is now serving a 25 year sentence. This brought back many feelings for my dh which he repressed. Between those feelings that were brought back up, old feelings that were dealt with, and being in a safe and loving marriage his attitudes and behaivors changed very quickly and drastically. We are now in counseling and he is willing to open his eyes to the fact that he can’t do it on his own and must trust God for help. He is also willing to consider medicaiton for any issues as they come up. Before he would not even face this was still an issue.
I am honored to be this man’s wife as he show’s this strength and I am glad that he feels he can rely on me for support. While we both need counseling for some of the damage done to our relationship I know that he will need more to help him stand. I need prayers, support, and advice.