Let’s get away from abortion and tell a story. A ship sinks, and a lot of the survivors get into the lifeboat. There are 30 of them in the lifeboat, and there is maybe an inch or two of freeboard, and the ocean is stormy. Someone swims to the lifeboat and begs to be taken on board. It’s clear to everyone (except the swimmer!) that the lifeboat will sink and they will all drown if they add one more person. They refuse to take the swimmer on board. So. Were they all selfish, or were they all concerned with the other 29 people in the lifeboat? Or was there a mixture of motives not only among the 30 survivors, but within each survivor?
In all these threads (yes, no exceptions) I read the same themes: so-and-so (depends on the issue) is selfish, and therefore evil. That’s quite a jump in logic, and I don’t see Jesus doing that. In fact, we have a lot of stories in the Gospels where Jesus does the opposite: he assumes the best in people.
Let’s say a poor mother is struggling to get by with 6 children. She gets pregnant. She has an abortion. Is she selfish, or is she thinking of the well being of the other 6 children? We don’t know. Probably she doesn’t know. Only God knows. I’m just making a case here for not throwing around the word “selfish” as if we can perfectly judge the mind of another. We can’t. Give them the benefit of the doubt.