The Art of Being Straight

New homosexual-themed film. I’m sure it will be touted as relevant and illuminating the complexities of life as a modern, urban young adult. But the irony is that, for an artsy film, it totally undermines the arguments that homosexuality can’t be a moral choice since they’re “born that way”. In fact, the description of the film is the traditional Catholic view of homosexuality–the mechanism of how it works, that is, not the morality.

Smart, handsome, twenty-three-year-old Jon (Jesse Rosen) has just moved to Los Angeles from New York, ostensibly “taking a break” from his longtime girlfriend. He moves in with college bro Andy (Jared Grey), whose pals incessantly do that kind of “That is so gay” banter that’s essentially harmless — unless you’re the only gay guy in the room. Jon is hardly comfortable discussing his shifting Kinsien scale placement with them, and his new job as bottom-rung gofer at a major ad agency is fraught with sexual tension as a studly boss (Johnny Ray Rodriguez) barrages him with thinly veiled come-ons. Infamous among his buddies as a womanizer, Jon is more surprised than anyone when he ultimately falls for his boss’ seductive charms, which sends him spiraling into a world of sexual confusion. Meanwhile, he becomes re-acquainted with Madeleine (Rachel Castillo), a friend from college, who has recently chosen to become a lesbian. She falls for the affections of a man….until his wandering eye and casual maltreatment cause her to remember why she gave up men in the first place. Ultimately, each of the friends discovers that acceptance in modern American society is not as difficult as they thought, that social mores no longer dictate who we are and that each decision you make has a direct affect on your identity.

I get more concerned with other films or TV shows that do not have homosexuality as a main theme, but may have a gay charactor in a bit part.

Seems to me that if any charactor’s sexual orientation isn’t essential to the plot, why would we need know about it or care about it? It’s sort of like gratuitous sex scenes…totally unnecessary, but the directors/writers feel a need to place them in there.

Seems also to me that Hollywood, especially in TV, is very determined in the effort to gain acceptance of homosexuality in our culture and tries to do so in a variety of ways. Not too long ago, it was introducing a goofy, funny, likable gay character into a sitcom. “Hey, gays are funny, likable people too”, we’re supposed to think. Now most of the popular TV comedies and dramas have gay characters, whether or not their sexual orientation makes a contribution to the plot.

It’s a bit different in movies, methinks, since we tend to be more selective about which movies we go to see, at $7 or $8 bucks a pop. Gay characters in cinema tend to be fewer and more plot driven, at least in the serious movies. In the “throwaway” movies, as I call them, (movies that you watch once and wouldn’t pay to see again) such characters are popping up like the “goofy, funny, likables” in TV.

My analysis in a nutshell. :smiley:

I have a question: What is the Catholic view on homosexuality? What I would like to understand is not what it says one can and can not do; but what does it (The Church) say regarding a person’s orientation? I know some of us are born with more testastarone than others and that some of us are born with other, shall we say,feminine nature than others. Does the Church say some of us are born homesexual and do not follow the sexual acts of this “nature” or does it say we are not born homosexual but some do have tendancies? I would like to know? By the way, there is no doubt some are born morthadyte.

dcastlen50: you used a word not familiar to me: morthadyte.

Did you perhaps mean morphodite? I didn’t find any entry for morthadyte, but morphodite is short for hermaphrodite.

I wonder about this too, sometimes, but the incidence of hermaphroditism is pretty rare. I suppose the Catholic teaching about same sex attraction would apply.

By David C. Morrison (it’s short)

Last paragraph:
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.

I also understand that married couples are called to chastity. That is, they would not "use" another person just for their own pleasure (as in pornography). The wife should'nt ordinarily wear revealing clothing -- even just around her spouse as that would not be a reflection of a chaste attitude. 

If You Really Loved Me by Jason Evert might be helpful.

I'd recommend doing some more research at Catholic answers (This Rock magazine).

We are all called to give ourselves to God heart, soul, mind and body. Believe me, just because one is married, it isn't a lot easier, but married couples do receive Grace through the sacrament of marriage. We have to make it active, though, and be open to receiving it through frequent reception of the sacraments, especially Reconciliation and Holy Communion.

God Bless,

Thank you for your insightful answers.

My sister in law is non-catholic (although she was baptized as an infant her mom left the church when her parents divorced just a few months after being married). She is also a lesbian. I don’t like what she does, I don’t like or approve of how she lives her life, but I still love her. Likewise I love and care for her partners just like they were also my sister in law. I am honest that I don’t approve of women sleeping with women, but that they have to choose how they will live for themselves. Just like anyone else in the world she does have the right to run away from God if she chooses to do so of her own free will.

Loving her does not mean that I have to enable her to do things like mooch off of others, not get her GED, I don’t beleive that a good Christian acting in conscience should be required to rent to her and her lesbian lover together, although as a family member I would be hard pressed not to leave her sleeping in her car, but I would not expect someone I didn’t know to provide quarters for them to co-habitate…I would not expect any religious person to go against thier faith, be it Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, or some other faith entirely to allow someone who lives a life so against what they believe to life in a house they own or otherwise control who lives there…to do so would go against thier religious freedoms, just like forcing a Catholic doctor to preform and abortion goes against thier religious freedoms…

Back to the discussion of what it has to do with said movie, she is not the only lesbian I know that became one after a bad experience with a man, and let us just say on the subject that when she was a child mom was a really poor judge on who her children should be left with. Do I think that in her case she was born a lesbian? Not in her case, there is so much bitterness to the men who have treated her badly…I know another who now considers herself to be bisexual who has always leaned towards women, from kindergarten on… To say that all gays are born that way is to diminish the suffering of those who have turned that way due to abuse by others, and judgement rather than love.

To simply and respectfully say that the Bible (not the church, not your preacher, but the Word of God) teaches that it is wrong for a man to lay with a man and women to lay with women, and the churches teaching that it is up to them to deny the physical desires and be chaste. Truthfully are we not all called to be chaste in our relationships? The point is that I don’t need to picket and protest or torment the lesbian next door…so to speak as some choose to do. Choosing kindness over censure and a gentler teaching method that does not alienate the person totally from someone who cares in a Christian sense…after all I don’t think we are called to alienate lost souls, rather to seek and bring them to Christ so he can save them. To pray for them.

The idea of hating the sin and loving the sinner however can also apply to other sins besides choosing to live a homosexual life…

What I saw in the clip is someone coming from one city to another to start over. He chooses his college buddy’s place which has the ‘usual’ routine of alcohol consumption in the home, parties and bar hopping. He works for a gay employer who hits on him. The female friend is gay - by choice - because the men she has fallen for in the past mistreated her.

a. as soon as you have enough money, leave the college buddy’s place for something more stable - way fewer drinking buddies and regular healthy hours for rest, work, play.

b. when the gay boss hits on you, quit or file a sexual harrassment suit.

c. women can be abusive as well as men. Changing orientations doesn’t eliminate relationship challenges.

Anyway, take away the partying lifestyle and you’d have a different film. It also affirms that being gay, for many people, **is **a choice despite what many proponents of the LBGT claim (that it’s the way God made them). I would think this movie would set their argument back a few steps, but it would advance the other camp’s view that, while a choice, it’s one every person should be free to make.

When I see TV shows or films which depict this “it’s a choice” perspective of being gay I find myself wondering how those who really have lived with same sex attraction all their lives and have struggled to try to change or dealt with the bigotry view the films. Do they get angry or do they applaud the effort?

I personally know several gay people who don’t think sexual orientation is set in stone. I guess they could all be confused bisexuals labeling themselves as gay, but I’m talking about men and women well into adulthood who have been out for decades…

The gay pride/rights movement doesn’t want you to hear that though.


To elaborate on a previous poster, the Catholic Church doesn’t define where same sex attraction comes from. It’s important to realize that the Church isn’t a “magic 8 ball” that can answer all of the questions that life throws at us. As catholics, we DO know that God has revealed that homosexual intercourse is never healthy or moral. We don’t know where the inclination to it comes from (apart from the obvious that ALL inclination to sin comes from the effects of Original Sin).

Just like the Church doesn’t rule on scientific theories of evolution because it isn’t her jurisdiction, the Church hasn’t been entrusted with the charism of psychological infallibility. In the end, it is a legitimate area for scientific inquiry.

You know I notice that movies like this seem to all stem from what I like to call “The American pie series.” You get the sexual innuendo jokes about everything and wrap up show with “What have we learned” at the end as if to justify everything and anything that happened before that.

the last such movie I regret viewing due to pressure from friends was “40 days and 40 nights” where our handsome young protagonist who is a “player” of the highest order who swears off sex for (guess how long) for lent.

Considering that the movie ends with male rape as a old flame of our hero frustrated at being denied sneaks into his apartment at the end and ruins his so called “Lenten” habit, I can safely say I don’t watch these movies anymore.

There is nothing to gain from watching them… at all… in anyway shape or form.
I’ll stick with Starwars, innocent but realistic right up to the end.

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