I agree with the previous poster. Some of you know that I was nearly the victim of assault at sixteen and people have tried to corrupt my innocence over the years simply because they thought it was “funny”! If I can’t drink (when I’m of age) with my friends or wear something pretty because it’s a “come and get me” signal, I might as well live in Iran.
When I was sixteen, the only fault I had was trying to be nice to someone who fooled me into believing they were lost. I got seriously lucky that day. You know why I didn’t report him? Because I thought it was “my fault” in some way.
Like I said in my last thread, this isn’t a man bashing event. We have male survivors speaking, and the most manly guy I know is practically running this. And he hates radical feminism! But he dearly loves women and wants to protect them.
It really makes me sad that these issues and events are thought of as radical feminist ultra left issues, simply because there are women who give them a bad name. They’re everyone’s issues. The next time I hear someone say, “She asked for it,” I’m going to challenge them to say that to a woman who’s life has been shattered because of that. Say that to the parents whose daughter has been horribly abused and who blame themselves for not being able to protect them. Say that to the girl who’s abused by her boyfriend/husband every day and is too afraid to do something.
I shouldn’t have to live in fear just walking my friends home at night (because I care about them more than my own safety). My best guy friend shouldn’t come close to having a heart attack because he’s afraid of me walking back home at night (and he gives me self defense tips all the time, will walk with me to my dorm and see me to the door, call me to make sure I’m in all right, etc.) . My friends shouldn’t have to fear for their own safety. I shouldn’t have to throw my pretty (modest, but still noticeable) clothes in the trash, never consider wearing make up again, stop talking to boys, stop traveling, or refuse a drink in a situation where it’s legal and cultural (while traveling, when I turn 21, etc.) simply because it might turn some guy on.
We should be modest and have common sense but there is NO EXCUSE to rape a woman. NONE! If someone is intoxicated, you should be aware that they don’t have the judgment they’d usually utilize. If someone is wearing a short skirt, still gives no one a right to lay a hand on her.
I used to be bullied all the time and I was blamed for being an “easy target” and for “letting it happen.” I was eight!! Was it any surprise that I didn’t confess a near miss for two years (I confessed three months ago, while crying in the arms of this same friend of mine)? Apparently, I was an “easy target” (I was alone and I was after school for an honor society function). Apparently, I let that happen. Apparently, it was my fault that I nearly lost my innocence, I lost my confidence in myself, my trust in people, and especially my trust in men! I’ve only recently gotten that all back, thanks to God, counseling, my family, and especially the friends that are in my life right now.
This isn’t just a feminist issue or a woman’s issue. It’s everyone’s issue and especially as Catholics, we need to fight for the dignity of both man and woman by fighting against these evils.
St. Joan of Arc and St. Maria Goretti, pray for us.