thanks to all who have been praying for me.
if you read either of my threads about the guy i am involved with this is the third part of the saga…
i realise that the relationship MUST end. but i dont know how to do it.
i have read a few websites about people who are codependent and addicted to love and traits of emotional abuse and this guy displays many of the ‘signs’ they say to look out for.
but i dont know how to go about ending this. as far as he knows, everything is rosy and we are seeing each other again in a month or so.
i posted him a letter and cd last week so that is yet to arrive and it also has my home address on it, which i am not that worried about but does make me a little insecure knowing now what i do.
do i start to be a bit more cool and let things wind down slowly over the next week or two? or is it better to just suddenly end it? should i give reasons? i dont want any form of retaliation so i dont want to leave him too emotional or whatever. what on earth do i say?
i also feel sorry for him and dont know if i should request that we totally end communication or if we keep the option up of staying in contact if he would prefer. i still care about him. i dont want to be in a relationship with him now but i dont want to totally cut him out of my life. it seems horrible to end things out of the blue, without giving any warning signs. i havent yet told him i am not coming back, so maybe i should just begin with that and take it from there?
please pray for me to do the right thing.
all i can think is thank goodness we are already physically apart and thank goodness he cannot afford to jump on a plane and try and ‘patch things up’.
advice and prayers please!