My grandfather just died a few weeks ago. He was an unbeliever. His remaining child, had him cremated (as I know he would have requested; my grandmother and their two children died and were cremated back in 2008 and 2009/2010 IDK exactly). There was no funeral service or any ceremony of any kind.
An obituary was typed up and apparently sent out to the family members, but nothing was published in the newspaper or online. I can’t figure out the point of an announcement of my grandfather’s death to family who knew him and knew the facts of his life.
There has been mention of having some kind of memorial gathering at some point, but no plans have been made at this time.
My H’s grandmother died last year, there was no funeral, no interment. She also was cremated. A few months later, the family gathered at a funeral home and had a unstructured time of various relatives standing up to share a particular memory of their mother / grandmother. The grandmother had been both Mormon, then Catholic, then Mormon and then Seventh Day Adventist before she was moved to a convalescent home.
I guess this is just more of an observation about the state of things today. I don’t really see a point of having a family gathering to remember my grandfather. Those of us who had a close relationship to him, have our memories, and those who didn’t don’t. The point of having a funeral Mass was to offer prayers for the soul of the departed.
Has anyone else experienced this type of gathering in memory of a deceased love one?