The lie society preaches: If you don’t have sex with him, he’ll leave you!
The truth: This is a very nasty lie because it’s the EXACT opposite that is true. If you have sex before marriage, he is more likely to leave you before it ever gets to the marriage stage.
Some girls think they have to have sex to prove their love. That’s total nonsense. If a guy loves you, he will want to marry you. If he doesn’t want to marry you, he will want to have sex with you to get what he can now, before moving on later and get married to someone else (I’m talking about the average, non God-fearing guy).
Protip: Guys will say or do anything to get to the stage of sex. This is a sad truth… but I know personally that this is true. A guy will ‘use’ a women to achieve his goal of sex or validation from women (making himself look/feel good by having you pursue him or give yourself to him). He will say whatever it takes to get to the stage of sex. He will say he loves you. It’s usually not true. After you’ve had sex for a while, he will coldly break it off and seek his next vessel of validation and sex, and you will be alone and without your virginity.
A guy might say he loves you and you will be together forever, and use those as reasons to have sex… but ask yourself… Has he stood before his family and friends and pledged to be with you for the rest of his life, for better or worse?
If he truly loves you, he will have NO PROBLEM waiting until marriage to have sex with you.
In fact, this should excite him, because it means he gets to marry you and have sex with you for the rest of his life. This is a very exciting prospect for a man that truly loves a woman.
If he claims to love God, why would he want to dishonor God by having sex with you before marriage? If a man truly loves God not only will he “understand” about waiting until marriage, but he should be the one who whole heatedly agrees with waiting.
Lie from society: You need to have a “test drive” to get experience before marriage.
What a disgusting lie. What they are basically saying is “When I get married, I hope other men have had sex with my wife so that she has some experience before doing it with me.”
You don’t need experience before you have sex with your spouse. If you are both virgins, it will be great and exciting and new and you will share that together. If you LOVE each other, it will be fun and exciting and special… not awkward like the world tells you. You will be doing it with someone you know and love and who knows and loves you.
Lie from society: Sexual acts are okay, as long as it’s not full intercourse
The truth: When you get married, do you want your spouse to have done these “Sexual acts” with other people? Do you think your spouse will want you to have a history of this sort of thing? It’s still a sexual act, it’s still disobeying God and it’s still sinful, and there are still terrible consequences.
Lie from society: There are pretty much no bad consequences for sex before marriage
When you watch TV shows and Movies, they always show sex outside of marriage as having no consequences. This is a dirty lie.
Here are some of the massive penalties you might pay if you have sex outside of marriage:
Millions have experienced this, even while using protection. Many have then gone on to kill their unborn child to try to escape their sin, which only makes it worse. If you are in this situation, God can take your mistake and turn it into a miracle, but if you have the choice, you wouldn’t want to be in this situation in the first place.
You could become infertile by getting an STD
This is a sickening price to pay for sex before marraige. When you have sex with someone, you are exposing yourself to any diseases their previous partners have had. Some diseases, such as Chlamydia can have horrific effects on your life…
The wall street journal reports:
Left untreated, chlamydia can cause infertility or potentially fatal ectopic pregnancies. But many women aren’t even aware that they were exposed to it—possibly years ago—until they try to have a baby and can’t. link to article
Imagine you get married one day and are ready to have children (which might be a dream for you), only to find out that you or your spouse’s previous sex before marriage resulted in you getting a disease which made you infertile… Now your dream of having a family of your own is destroyed because you gave in to sins as a teenager or young adult. What a terrible price to pay. (If you find yourself in this situation pray about it… God can make you fertile again… I know personally that He does wondrous, mind blowing miracles for people who repent of their sins before Him and trust in Him for their future).
How disgusting is it that much TV and Movies make sex outside of marriage seem as if it has no bad consequences when in reality it does?
You could be left emotionally devastated
While some may scoff at this one, others know it is a reality because they have experienced it. When you love someone and have sex with them, only to have them leave you, it feels like they took a part of you with them. They then go on to have relationships with others, possibly people you know, and it can be a lingering emotional issue for you. Again, if you find yourself in this situation, pray, because God is faithful and He says “Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow” - Isaiah 1:18.
You have less to give your spouse
When you do fall in love and decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, and they decide the same for you, it is special if you both can say “You are the one I love, and the one I have waited for and the only one I will give myself too, ever.”