Wow. I was just researching out of interest and came up with that great article. Have you had any experience in the hook up culture (young or, uh, advanced in years :p?)
I researched it because I was thinking about it today. And it really just struck me, that what is going on is actually unbelievable and shocking whilst at the same time really really sad. I have a lot of girl friends, and they range from really pretty girls to not so attractive (physically) girls. But every single weekend they try trump each other on how many guys they kissed or slept with. And let me just add that kissing someone is nothing, apparently. A kiss is not a contract, as the saying goes. Hence, all the people (guys and girls) have usually kissed around 30+ people and slept with probably 7-8 so far (I'm with 21year old crowds). And thats girls. Nice girls, who you would think well hey she's decent and pure. Wrong. Hooking up is what people live for. And that article kinda spoke to me.
I just never understood it. And I still don't. You know, my ex used to tell me that I think too much about the future and never cease the day. I find that funny, because she and all these people LIVE for friday night where they can get stupidly drunk and take someone home to sleep with. And I think... what is that? Is that how you want to live? Thing is it struck me the most for the girl friends I am closest to. I have one in particular who kind of self-deprecates all the time, and everybody makes jokes about how she has kissed tons of guys and slept with all these ugly blokes, but she laughs with them. But I see it in her eyes that, you know, she doesn't want that. She'll laugh about it, but I am positive deep down she hates it. But she wont stop, because at least she is known as someone who hooks up. And I am often giving such a talking to because I think that going out on a friday and kissing someone is wrong. People laugh. "It's only kissing grow up Grandpa". But little do they know. Kissing is meant to be between people who mean something to each other. Oh, and by the way girl, the dude your kissing isn't thinking "yay I like her this is great" he's thinking "kissing me now, sleeping with me later oh yeah wait till the guys hear".
And I just want to scream to these people. Wake up! Have some respect! For yourself! For your future partner! For your parents! For life! I just want to say to these girls - hey, do you know what some of my friends say about hooking up? Listen close... "Any hole is a goal". Yup. Thats the motto for friday night for dudes. And you let them do it to you.
And for the guys, man, what do you think you are doing! Its funny because they think it makes them a man. Thats not what a man does. Thats not how you would want your wife, your mom, your daughter or your sister to be treated. And yet thats what you do.
Grrr, why can't people just respect themselves and each other :(