I am a single woman from an ethnic minority group who has reached her early thirties. I am part of a generation that has been immersed in the so-called “hook up culture” since our college years. Recently, I have begun to reckon with the difficult-but honest- truth that due to a combination of my age, my ethnicity, and the overall devaluation of women in today’s society, I am very unlikely to find a serious partner for marriage. My question right now is, would choosing to remain single (in some consecrated state) as a response to these realizations be a valid reason for pursuing a vocation? In other words, I would view a vocation as a rejection of society’s valuation of me as a woman of color (e.g.- not worthy of anything more than being treated like an experiment or prostitute) for God’s valuation, choosing an exclusive relationship with Him over an ongoing worldly search that grows less and less likely to be fruitful with each passing day.
I would love to hear from anyone who has had similar thoughts in discerning their vocation.
Thank you and God bless!