[quote=kage_ar]“A man must not expect to “land” a woman who is more attractive than he is!”
What??? Attractive is in the eye of the beholder. I hate broccoli, you love broccoli. Some women like burly dark men, some like slender fair men. Some find chest hair attractive, some find it appalling. It is all very subjective.
From my observations, women tend to look at the whole person while men tend to be drawn to the superficial. Go on a people watching excursion – you are likely to see more “beautiful” women with older, balding, out of shape husbands than you are to see male models with grey haired middle aged wives. With the “disabled”, it is striking – mixed couples (one disabled, one not) are disproportionably a disabled man with non-disabled woman vs. disabled woman with non-disabled man.
IMHO, physical attraction is more important to men than to women. (This opinion comes from a middle aged, grey haired woman with dwarfism who is 15 years happily married.)
kage_ar I think you are a good woman, I just don’t know how you can say that men are more superficial. From what I’ve observed men and women are equally superficial but we are superficial in different ways.
The reason women are attracted to balding out of shape men is because they exhibit other qualities that are attractive. Power, money, and confidence are attractive to women. These same things are not attractive to men. Men are more focused on looks. As a man I can honestly say that I don’t care how much a woman makes and I don’t care how much confidence she has. After all, as a man I’m looking for a nurturer and not a provider. Women and men have very different perspectives on what is attractive. There is also a lot of confusion in modern society regarding attraction. Most of the modern rhetoric goes against what men and women naturally find attractive. Women today are told to look for the feminized man who wears fancy clothing, nice shoes, and beautifies himself. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard a woman say that the perfect man is a Gay guy. It attempts to blur the genders and it creates allot confusion. Men today don’t grow up learning how to be real men. We are told to focus on what women say they want and not what women naturally need. We are also told that being masculine (as God intended) is wrong. This creates a lot of confusion and a lot of hardship – I should know I experienced it. My success with women only occurred when I realized what it means to be a man and how important it is to stay true to my faith.
Men and women who have faith in God are not subject to these stupid superficial ideals. It is only important to realize that some degree of physical attraction is a good thing. After all God created us to be physically attractive to each other.