Having read the thread entitled "Should I shoot down Cupid?" (here: forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=682951) and a few others on the topic of dating, I'm somewhat surprised by the reliance on and/or implied necessity of 'mind games' and (so-called) 'strategizing' in the dating process.
I find it deceptive. So my questions are these: are such things necessary in dating? In courting? (if there is a difference in that regard) Is it even moral to manipulate people?
I read a few posts about the "Ladder Theory"; it's quite shocking; do people really presume malice or selfishness on the part of others? It doesn't seem like a good start to a marriage.
Just to assist everyone in their responses: I'm a young male Catholic who has not dated before.
Thanks for your replies.