I am a breastfeeding mother. My body has not regulated itself to a predictable pattern like my pre-pregnancy state. I am still up at least 2 times on any given night to nurse the baby. With all of this in mind and with my irregular waking hours, I am having a terrible time remembering to take my temperature in the morning. My husband is very understandably frustrated with the limitations on our intimacy, but charting on just symptoms alone is leaving us unable to confidently be together without concern of another pregnancy (which we are postponing at this time). He is very frustrated with me that I am not charting as well and as thoroughly as I should because there are more days than not where the temperature is missing.
I have apologized for this, and I have told him my struggle that I am simply not remembering to take my temperature in the morning. I’m waking up to a 3 year old calling my name and a 7 month old crying for me, and it just is not even registering that I need to stop and take the temp. I have explained to him that I really need his help in this arena. I’ve suggested maybe he could keep the thermometer and give it to me in the morning, that way I would have him as a reminder. He thinks it is just unimportant to me and that simply is not the case. I’m not trying to make excuses. I am admitting my failure in this department and acknowledging my need for help, but… he says he will do it, and then he forgets also. But then he gets angry with me for not having done it.
I am interested to know how other couples navigate these waters. Do you share any of the responsibilities of NFP? Perhaps other women have experienced this same problem where their groggy morning-brains are focused on something other than taking their temperature–how did you overcome that? Any advice or tips on how to better address this situation would be appreciated.