I am quite sincerely confused and need your help.
I know anger is a sin most of the time, because it is so tied up with pride often.
But then Jesus was very angry in the market place.
Is he the only one entitled to anger? Because of his perfection? (I guess Our Lady is entitled to anger too in that case)
I ask because today my boss sent me a text message asking me to do something unethical at work. I got very very angry, and ended up calling him and told him off.
He respectfully disagreed with me (keeping his cool) and expressed his sincere surprise that I was angry. He then sent me an email saying I was being a bit unfair and once again asking me to do this unethical thing.
My husband thinks I should apologise for being so angry, and then say to him I will talk later about this thing. He also says that I should try and see things from their perspective.
By the way, the unethical thing he asked me to do is to withhold results from our collaborators that disprove a large part of our scientific theory. He doesn’t want me to tell anyone about my findings until he gives the go ahead. My big fear is because he wants us to go ahead and publish without acknowledging this experiment.
He says “We don’t know if you are right…” but the experiment shows without a doubt I am right; he is exhibiting madness… this is much the same as a person waving money in front of a parking officer saying “you didn’t see anything.” He thinks I am also motivated by wanting a publication.
Can you see why I am mad?
Do I owe him an apology?
My husband says I can still hold my moral position without being angry and I should apologise for the anger I showed. But I can’t disconnect my feeling of deep anger from this issue.
I feel terrible! So I know perhaps I am sinning. Always our work is tied up with pride. I am quite sincerely feeling awful about this, and realized I do not understand the Churches teachings on anger. This is a really raw point for me, as I have been asked to falsify my results before, and when I refused it lead to harassment and I had to leave that job.
Your various opinions would be so much appreciated.