Over the past two months, I have become aware of some things that are going on in my parish. Just to let everyone know where I come from, I’m a recent convert from Reform Judaism. I’m currently in RCIA.
My main concern is the fact that we have a gay couple in our parish. This couple is sexually active, and very open about themselves. Furthermore, they are gay rights activists. They are very active in the “gay marriage” movement. This couple belongs to a gay men’s chorus (no affiliation with the church) and they had a performance a few weeks ago. Several members of the church choir went. I was asked if I wanted to buy a ticket, but I declined.
The choir director is fully aware of them, but allowed them on the choir anyway. She has made it clear that she disapproves of their relationship, but feels that she would be unloving if she didn’t allow them on the choir. The priest and RCIA director are also aware of them, as is the nun. This couple is allowed to receive Communion every Sunday, which I have been told by some devout acquaintances of mine is against the teachings of the Church.
In addition, one of these men is a lector, and appears before the congregation on a regular basis in this capacity. These two men constantly joke around in a vulgar, sexual manner, making all kinds of gay sex jokes. They do this all the time in front of the choir members, and have done it to me as well. Several times now they have made crude sexual jokes to me. One of them also has made it a bit obvious that he finds me attractive.
I have spoken to my choir director about this, and she became angry at me. She admitted that she knows what the Church teaches, but disagrees with it. She said that the fact that these men are not denied Communion shows that this parish is a loving parish, and not “traditional, hard-nosed, and cold-hearted.” Furthermore, it has come to my attention that she has been talking about me behind my back, in relation to this issue.
I have been told that this is a “Judas parish”, and that I should leave it. What is a “Judas parish?” I would also like to let everyone know that in spite of these experiences, I have met many devout, orthodox, loving Catholics at this parish, and have befriended them. I have to admit I feel torn. On one hand, I’m sick of this and want to leave. On the other, I don’t want to leave the good, devout friends I’ve met there.
There are also other issues that I’ve discovered at this parish. I have learned from a couple of devout acqaintances that my RCIA director ahs been teaching me things that contradict official Church doctrine. For example, she has taught me that everyone is saved, regardless of what their religion is (Buddhism, Shinto, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, etc). She said all that is required for salvation is that you follow your particular religion faithfully. Also, she has taught me that Hell does not exist. Only Heaven and Purgatory. There are other examples, but I’ll leave them out in the interest of space.
If I have posted this on the wrong forum, I apologize. The moderators can feel free to move this to whatever forum is appropriate.
By the way, I’ve been praying about this. Anyone who has any insight, please help. Thanks!