Excellent. So we are in agreement.
They DO know that it offends or hurts the spouse, but they choose to do it anyway. So, they’re hiding it because they know the spouse will be angry, not because deep down they know better.
How is that reason for lying any better?
Maybe if the spouse giving the ‘wrath’ would just lighten up, they wouldn’t have to lie? Oh, I’ve heard that one a time or two.
I never said that hiding things was fine or that continuing to do a certain behavior knowing that it hurts his wife is ok since he doesn’t think it is wrong.
My only point was the logic of “he hides it, therefore he knows it is wrong” is faulty.
That is all.