OK Friends. For fear of exposing myself, I have not let it all hang loose. Now, because I am so desperate, I will say. My hubby, the last job he had, in a string of lay-offs as I said, was fired from the school district he worked for, as a math teacher, because he wrote a student, a 15 YO, 4, obscene and suggestive letters. I am so ashamed to even mention it to you all, at what a scum I am married to. All our problems began since this, 5 yrs. ago. He did have a good job, with benefits, etc., but this began our downfall unto the H___ we now live in. We thought finally, hubby had some semblance of a job, after 17 years of marriage and his continuing irresponsibility and lay-offs in every job, that he finally had a good situation. Well, the bubble was surely blown by this. Friends, this is a biggie. A suggestive letter to a student, an addiction to porn, since marriage. No wonder I’m a complete nervous wreck. Please friends. My health has suffered, and I have forgiven him for this indescretion. As for most men caught in the web of porn., it leads to worse, as in my case. He had a lawsuit, and it was dismissed, as he never touched the girl. All the same, it has affected me. It makes me utterly sick. The D.A., the first time we appeared in court, said: “You guys have marriage problems”… OK, DUH.
Friends, the only reason I tell all of this to you, is because I am so desperately trying to keep my marriage together for the sake of my kids here. My hubby has such deep problems which is so obvious. I, a catholic, know divorce is not an option. Hubby has never been PHYSICALLY unfaithful. Just this, and his porn addiction for the past 16 years. No wonder I do not respect him, my love is waning for him as well.
Please friends. I need some practical advice here. Our marriage therapist has hardly brought up this issue. But is has not been over for me yet, all the hurt, etc.,
Sorry for this shocker. I need your wise input friends.