I have read some Traditionalist blogs where various ‘voices’ of varying degrees of theological maturity and/or orthodoxy express concerns about both Natural Family Planning and the use of certain practices as stimulation within the marital act.
For example, the work of Ronald Conte at catechism.cc/ or this from Rorate Caeli rorate-caeli.blogspot.com/2013/06/heroic-parenthood-case-against-nfp.html
Honestly, I would like to know the answer to two questions:
Firstly, how far would you say these views are reflective of the Traditional Catholic community? Are they views you agree with? It is really none of my business what other families in my parish get up to in their private lives, but I would honestly be very surprised if anyone I know holds such views.
Secondly, do the people who write and opine in this way have families themselves? I am amazed at some of Conte’s views, and cannot see how it would be possible for any woman to have a fulfilling and healthy marriage with such a man, but perhaps I am mistaken. Are there any women who agree with such views? If your husband examined his conscience and came to the conclusion that NFP or stimulation other than the marital act itself were sinful, how would you respond?
a) does anyone think this way?
b) does any woman, or anyone in a healthy relationship with a woman, think this way?
Please do not take this as a facetious or spiteful comment. I am genuinely interested, because these views suggest an outlook on Catholic life which is so divergent from anything I have encountered in my own experience as a Catholic (in a Novus Ordo parish) that I find it hard to relate to. Am I being narrow-minded toward other expressions of the faith?
Please also note that I am not in any way advocating the views of Conte or his ilk.