OK, I don’t want to turn this forum into a dating site, instead, I just thought it might be nice to have a thread for people who are, for whatever reason, not married but also not pursuing a vocation to single life, to post a little about themselves and the problems we encounter, maybe encourage eachother.
My story, I was engaged for 7 months to a wonderful young woman, but things broke down, we just weren’t listening to eachother and we couldn’t help eachother deal with our problems, which meant they just built up until it became too stressful to even talk. About 2-3 months before we were due to marry, she called it off, asking if we could just stay friends. I proved myself unable to be a friend without constantly dwelling on someday becoming more again, so now it’s just over. This has all happened in the last 2 weeks, though looking back I can see that there were unaddressed issues from the start. I’m still a little tender, though I realise I have become a better, more confident, more understanding and trusting person because of this relationship, and also realised that I don’t want to remain single. I may not be ready for marriage yet, but I am ready to become ready.