The Skill of Submission
The Sweetness of Seduction
The Sanctity of Surrender
A husband is commanded to love and cherish his wife, and that is not and should never be dependent on his emotions or that his wife seems to earn or deserve it, he is commanded. So too is a wife to respect her husband; But, in this day and age of popular opinion courtesy of the entertainment industry or their girlfriends who are so influenced, in place of God’s Word. This is reinforced by several generations of seeking “equality” combined with (actually resulting in) an ever increasing population of single-parent homes where matriarchal authority is seen as a balance in our modern and “enlightened” societies resulting in the inevitable destruction of the family unit and break in handing down the traditions of our Christian/Jewish western culture. The very object of the enemy!
Submitting To Your Husband
The mental defenses go up for many women when they hear the dreaded S-word! Does God’s word sit in judgment of our society or does our society sit in judgment of God’s word? Obviously the act of submission is voluntary, because if forced to do the will of others it is safe to say that the will is oppressed. Tony Evans uses the illustration of a yield sign. When challenged by oncoming traffic, a mistake in judgment will often result in some degree of collision or emergency action. Ephesians 5:22 we see God tells wives to submit to their husbands “as to the Lord.”
You want to hear “I love you.” We want to hear “I respect you.” Usually the opposition stems from the view that husbands are not worthy of respect, locking the marriage into a vicious cycle that few can recover from. 1Peter 3:1-2, where the apostle wrote “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior,” Two concepts of submission and respect. A woman shows respect by not preaching, criticizing him and his lifestyle, brow-beating and manipulating…simple bullying. How would you like to be treated where you work? A boss that micromanages your every move, soon you would tire of being treated like you do not have a brain and you would want to leave.
Submission does not mean that a woman has to deny who she is, nor, NEVER can anyone be commanded to commit what they know to be a grave sin, EVER!!! But, when all of the facts are on the table and all equal input is offered, he is charged with the responsibility of the decision. Submission has everything to do with function, not being. It does not signify a wife is inferior to her husband in terms of her worth to God.
The Sweetness of Seduction
A Godly woman’s true adornment cannot be bought at a department store or acquired in a beauty shop. The problem today is that so much of the “beauty” we see today is store-bought. It requires regular trips to the store, stylist and nail salon to maintain. Sadly it is true that so many have to “put on their face” because it simply is not the real person. When a woman can no longer distinguish between herself and her outer adornment for her worth and Identity, she has gone beyond the biblical standard.
What is the content of a Godly Woman’s adornment? “The imperishable quality of gentle and quiet spirit.” 1peter 3:4, does give direction as does the Scripture, “A virtuous woman is more precious than rubies.” It is the inner beauty that will be ever endearing by the way she conducts herself and responds to him through the willing submission and honor that she shows her husband.
A Christian wife may be good looking on the outside, but, who cuts her husband with her words, runs him down to her family and friends and dishonors him in the children’s presence is not beautiful in God’s definition. When her inner adornment of a woman’s spirit is missing or messed up, no amount of jewelry or clothing or anything store-bought enhancement can hide the ugliness. As a man can only lead by example and influence, so too is it for a wife. The inner transformation will never wrinkle or fade. Your spiritual adornment is precious to God and when God sees it, He will do what you cannot do and will work where you cannot reach. He will go to work on your husband.
The Sanctity of Surrender
Jesus’s example on the cross helps us see what it means to surrender to God’s divine plan. He willingly laid down on the cross and stretched out His arms to be nailed down because it was His Father’s will. Many wives feel like they are being crucified in their marriages and when it seems like being appreciated or even noticed for their sacrifice, the fear of surrender becomes very real. It can only be done as in tithing or any act of faith, God can only reward his blessings when we do our part to make it possible. God in His wisdom does not reward our rebellion only to continue in evil. God will create the opportunity to win your husband over and ultimately it is God that is glorified; Not you or your husband. In cases of abuse, nothing says that a spouse has to live with another and professional help should be sought if any family member is in physical and emotional behavior. Often an abused person will turn into an abuser. It is a defense mechanism to protect from being abused.
When marriages are out of sync with God’s will, disaster is waiting to happen. We can see the disaster unfold in the first marriage in history. In his temptation of Eve in the garden of Eden, he persuaded Eve to ignore Adam and assume the role of leadership that Adam was supposed to have. Adam failed in his lack of leadership and ultimately he was responsible for the entrance of sin at his feet.