Does anyone have any advice on how to handle issues of Catholic sexuality in a convincing but gentle manner? I am engaged to a wonderful woman who is strong in her faith; however, her sisters are rather more “open-minded” in their views about sexuality, especially regarding premarital sex and homosexuality. Recently, there was an argument about a gay pride parade, and I confess to expressing my opinion in a harsh (and admittedly un-Christian manner) way, and although my comments were deliberately directed towards the general scandal and impropriety of dress of the parade, and not towards homosexuality in general, I fear, well, in fact, I know, that they believe me to be a bit of a bigot.
Truthfully, I would avoid the matter, but it tends to come up. I have already planned to apologize at the least for my strong words, if not for my ideas. It is clear that in their minds I am the close-minded one; this I knew prior to any discussion from their reaction to my and my fiance’s rather traditional devotions and decision to wait until marriage, and especially our orthodox views of homosexuality.
Any other ideas for gracefully handling the situation? Most especially, the charge that I am simply close-minded and judgmental…it is the only one that I truly find offense with, as I honestly believe my views to be the result of a rather rigorous journey of research, study, and (I hope) honest self-reflection.