I was married for 17 years to an alcoholic. My children have obviously grown up with a bad example. Since leaving 9 months ago, I have pretty much stopped drinking (I had a beer with pizza once and a magarita at a Mexican restaurant) for a number of reasons. One is that it is a big job to be a single parent, so I can’t afford to be relaxed. I also think drinking alone is not a habit I want to pick up. Probably the biggest reason though is that I want to set a good example for my kids. I’m just not sure what the BEST example would be, not drinking at all or drinking responsibly.
Right now I have the no alcohol in my house policy, which is something I quietly told my parents about. I haven’t made an issue about it in front of my kids. I just wonder though if it might be better for them to see that we can have a glass of wine with a meal when we are having a special dinner like Thanksgiving. I’m really not sure. I mean, the time I had a beer with pizza, they practically flipped out on me. It’s like they can’t tell the difference between a single drink and a bunch of drinks.
I’d love to get some feedback, particularly from anyone who has dealt with alcoholism in the family and has an understanding of how children might view it.