I finally took a stand against my adult child who unfortuately has been a huge dissappointment to me. I know that I have some responsibily in that, however I never meant for it to get this bad. He is a person who seems unreachable, yet I know deep down inside he can be a wonderful person. Anyhow he has a tatoo on his arm that brings me great distress it is an evil symbol and I had asked him to get rid of it many times. I finally offered to pay for the removal and here is his answer. To get what I want will cost 450.00 so just give me the money you were going to give me and when I get the rest I will do it. you think about that and let me know. How’s that, instead of sure mom if it bothers you that much I will take it off. I know that it would cost about 150.00 to just make it so that it isn’t what it is. I really should have handled it from the beginning, but thinking I had some influence on him I decided not to. Ever since that tatoo his life is full of incidents some that have cause my family a great deal of pain. Here is my answer to his suggestion. No!!! my objective is to remove the object not participate in another tatoo of your choice and if that is the only way you will do anything about it than you cannot come into my home and as far a realtionship we have none. It has always been on your terms well not this time. Am I being to harsh? I cannot even speak with him. I am not happy about anything in his life including living with his girlfriend and their son. So if I were to speak with him he would get the impression that what he is doing is okay and it’s not. Would any of you done anything differently? I know deep down inside that this is what he needs, but it seems the world is against this type of parenting.
Thanks for listening