If any of you speak Spanish, you will find this thread very ironic because of my username. I originally joined this forum at the age of 15 when I was dead set on religious life. As you will discover reading on, that is far from the case these days.
I met my boyfriend this past fall while we were both in the hospital for psychiatric issues. This sounds absolutely terrible and like a recipe for disaster but I assure you we have only helped each other and my therapist has even commented on how surprising and amazing it is that we manage to keep our issues separate and take care of ourselves while being there for each other 110%.
Anyway, we have known each other for almost exactly 7 months at this point and have been dating officially for just over three and are seriously considering marriage. I am 19, he is 20, and we are long distance and have only seen each other in person 3 times since we were discharged from the psych ward. However, we communicate every day, Skype often, and have discussed the “big things” such as our plans for the future, our values, where we stand on different political issues. Our personalities compliment each other very well. In many ways we are opposites, but this has proven to be a good thing and I have grown very much as a person since meeting him. We have been on the very same page in our feelings and intentions for this relationship since the moment we met each other and, given the fact that we almost didn’t meet because we had intended to take our lives at the same point in time, I feel like we were pulled together for a purpose.
If we do get engaged soon, we will be married in the Church and will go through the proper marriage preparation prescribed by it.
I suppose my question is, would you say that we should get engaged at this point? He is my best friend. I can talk to him about anything and feel extremely comfortable around him, which is rare because I am normally afraid of men due to past traumatic experiences. I care about him more than I care about myself and I know he feels the same way about me. I know he isn’t perfect, I’m well aware of his flaws and shortcomings, but I also know that he is an amazing individual and I would be extremely lucky to weather the rest of life’s storms with him at my side.
Thanks in advance for your input!