Hey guys. So my fiance and i took the Focus test. We relaized it is a great starting point for convestations but it is not complete. I want to buy a book of questions to ask before you married but i couldn’t find one at the book store so i am turning to you guys. What topics do you think are important to ask before heading down the isle?
Questions we have discussed
1.) Finances (Joint checking, paying off loans, how we track and pay bills)
2.) Where to live and what our goal are (ie the style of house, the number of roms, location etc)
3.) End of life (life-support, organ donation, where to be buried)
4.) Raising kids
5.) Staying at home ( We both agree that this is something that we can only talk about in general because no matter how many plans we make they could change but we want to have a clear path on what avenues we would agree to take like homeschooling especially until we pay off my law school loan or which one might stay home.)
6.) Faith (both of us are catholic, we go to the same parish so our kids will be raised catholic.)
7.) Pets (maybe a dog but no cats and none right away)
8.) Jobs (what are goals are for our careers)
I know ther are other areas but what are they?
Also how does one talk about sex in the abstract? This was one of the problems with the focus test. It asked sexual questions under the unasumption that you are having sex. “I am uncomfortable about some sexual activities my marriage partner may ask of me.”…How am i (we) suppose to know the answer to this? We aren’t having sex or anything close to it. I can’t say that i won’t do something yet. So how does one talk about sex when you don’t have any experiences or expectations of what it will be like?
Thanks for all your help!