This is a personal question affecting me, though I can foresee that it might be helpful for general knowledge.
I reviewed my pre-need arrangements today with my funeral director, made several years ago, and contracted for along with an insurance policy to ensure the payment of expenses when that time comes, and I discovered that there was no provision for a chapel service. I had entrusted these details to a family member (long story) and he did not understand the necessity of this, and instead contracted for immediate burial (another long story). It is pretty much “set in stone”, and changing it at this point could result in not-inconsiderable expense and other problems. (They do not set up pre-need arrangements expecting to have to change anything like that.)
As it stands now, when that time comes, I will not be able to have a Traditional Latin Requiem Funeral Mass with my body present — I will have already been committed. My question: would I be able to have this Mass without my body present, or what is called “morally present”? I know in some cases (lost at sea, MIA with no body recovered and presumed dead, etc.) the body can obviously not be present, and the Requiem Mass would not be withheld for this reason. But in my case?
There are no family considerations, for I have no family (other than extended, and we’ve long since lost contact) other than my parents and my son, and in all likelihood, at that time it would only be my son, with whatever family he might have.
And I do ask that anyone who would urge me to have the post-Vatican II “Mass of Christian Burial”, please keep those thoughts to yourself — that’s not the question. It is no more incongruous for me to have my preference, than it would be for a “mainstream” Catholic to prefer the MOCB and have as their final wish not to have a Requiem TLM.