One by one, the older people in my mom’s generation are dying. As a fairly “traditional” Catholic, it is killing me to see beautiful Catholic traditions being abandoned for a generation who, for the most part, were devout. Their Boomer children (my generation) are opting out of things such as saying the rosary at wakes, *having *wakes, having funeral Masses, and handing out holy cards (they seem to think cards with trees and lakes are more appropriate if they have any at all). It just seems that in one generation, the Catholic Church is gone. I feel awful for the WWII generation who are all being buried as if they were new age gurus and not life long Catholics.
My own sister is no longer Catholic and when we discuss what will happen when our mom passes away, I feel like the last Catholic in the world.
Funerals and death are difficult enough to deal with, without having to re-invent traditions each time someone dies.