[quote="jantony, post:1, topic:254129"]
Please advice /suggest/Pray for me on how to handle this problem.
Im living out of home for my work. My Boyfriend and I took a Home and staying together before Marriage. Also I admit that we are having sex before marriage. I don want to live in Sin and seperate myself from Christ. I love to live a life which is Holy. My Boy Friend says to me that For sure He will Marry me once his sister marriage gets Over.
But because of this sin, my mind is really troubled and I have also asked confession to a priest and promised not to be like this. But it was just lasted only for few months and Im tempted to fall into same sin. Since we both live together Im unable to stop the sin. Only after doing that sin, Im realising my fault and crying to God.
Im at the age of 28 now and my dad or mom is not taking any steps for marriage. (I really dono wats there in thier mind, but no steps were taken still). My Boy friend is a good person, true to me and ready to marry me. He is a Muslim, not ready to convert to christian Faith but He has not compelled me in any conversions. He also believes in Jesus and he is ready to do marriage according to catholic Church and also he says that he will allows the children to be grown up as Christians.
I really dono what to do now and how to stop this problem. I dont want Sin. I want Jesus.Please pray for me.
I would appreciate your advices and suggestions.
My opinion is just my way of thinking. I do not affirm that this is Church's teaching and I am in no way exposing the Pope's view on that matter. I obey to what the Pope says.
My my head was made to think and I think. And I consider that I am free to think.
My remarks were inspired in an article where a priest mentioned that in Indonesia, in the island where he worked, the brides all went to marry already pregnant. They were Catholic, but the question is that they performed a ritual in the tribe and from then on, the tribe considered them married. The Catholic Faith was there and they wanted to get married in the Catholic Church and they saw no contradiction in getting married pregnant. The tradition of the tribe considered them married socially and then they wanted to be married in the Church for they were Catholics.
I wrote to the priest and asked whether it would be possible for them to perform the tribe ritual AFTER the Catholic Marriage. He said it was very difficult for it involved some steps, the exchange of gifts, dowry, discussions, and it had a timing which was incompatible with the timing of the Catholic Church.
Then I thought on the marriages that are annulled because there is no consummation, which means there was no sex afterwards. For me it was a little troublesome to understand that for I heard the story in my wifes's village of a soldier of the WW I who came impotent for he was badly hurt in the was, The wife only knew after the marriage, yet she maintained faithfully to him and my wife knew them when she was a child and they were very, very old, always together and loving each other. That is a story that moves me a lot.
So, put together, the Church thinks that for a marriage there must be an oath (english OK?) and 2in1, as Christ said, the 2 will be one Flesh, I dont like the way I am going to say, but you need sex.
Oath before sex? Sex before Oath?
Oath before sex it is what the Church says.
Still, I am wondering, under the present circumstances of modern day life, as you mention it is yours, as you say that there will be an Oath, if the temporal sequence cannot be accepted by God.
I end up saying that I know what the Catholic Church says.