This is puzzling to me. From what you have said, I don’t know why you even had to tell him, much less apologize for it. So you confided in a male friend. Did you tell the male friend things that maybe could have sparked his interest in you, or been embarrassing to your boyfriend? Did you have feelings for this male friend that’s leading to your guilty feelings?
I’m curious what it is about your boyfriend’s reaction that it “doesn’t make sense.” To me, it doesn’t make sense that you felt guilty for doing it, or for not telling him. If all you did was confide in him in a brother/sister way then I don’t see the big deal. Was he upset over it, or just puzzled about some aspect of it? When I was in the “dating game” if I had a girlfriend who objected to me talking to other girls for any reason other than romantically, it would turn me off. I don’t need somebody who’s clingy and jealous. If your boyfriend thinks it’s wrong for you to have a platonic discussion with another male, then I’d say he’s insecure and it would be a yellow flag to me, unless of course you have done other things to cause him to be concerned about your fidelity.
The fact that the other guy’s advice was not useful is a different issue, unless maybe he reacted in a romantic way and you thought you triggered it. If you learned the lesson that others’ opinions about things aren’t always going to be useful, then I think that’s great. But unless it was more than what you’ve let on about it so far, if you’ve “learned the lesson” that you should never talk to other men about anything, then I think that’s the wrong lesson.
Now you have me curious as to the nature of your questions and the guy’s response. My male competitiveness is eager to show off that I can give you a more useful answer than his.
Of course you should not divulge anything on this public forum that you don’t want to, just because I asked. So if you don’t want to tell us, don’t take any pressure from me to say it. http://bestsmileys.com/mouthzippedshut/2.gif