There is a girl at work who can absolutely drive me nuts. We have been working together for over 3 years. The good thing is, I have learnt that there is such a thing as working out our differences because there have been times where we get along.
When we first started working together, the way I handled her was to only go near her for business purposes. That was not the best solution because it caused a certain stress. So I tried to relax and be friendly and she was forgiving and things got a lot better.
It does not change the fact that our working relationship is like a roller coaster. Every 4-5 months things get tense and I get a headache thinking of going to work in the morning. I have also learnt that if I want to 'talk about it, I need to choose my time and words carefully'
I was telling a Catholic friend about it. She told me to pray for her (good advice). She also said, I never know when one of us will get a better job and this is not forever (good wisdom). But then, she also said the reason I work with her is because God knows this woman needs my prayers so He put our paths together so that I would pray for her. And that is where I think the point is being pushed to far.
I am not exactly sure how to word this but I think it is wrong to take on the attitude 'She needs my prayers'. It makes me feel like I am insinuating I know better than God who needs my prayers. It makes me feel like I am assuming I know her heart which I don't. I only have an impression because of her behaviour but I in no way shape or form know her heart.
I think taking on the attitude 'God told me to pray for my enemies so I will pray for her' is being more humble and obedient.
What do others think? Have I made my point correctly?